Frequently, during initial sessions with individuals new to therapy, I often encounter statements similar to:
“I don’t really have a problem right now, so I don’t think I need to see a therapist.”
While that may be true for the moment, trauma, stress, and depression are like ocean waves; they come in and out. If you’ve had an issue in the past, it doesn’t just go away on its own. It’s not a pimple.
This is why it’s important to remember that therapy is not about simply solving one singular problem at the exact moment you’re experiencing it. We’re not electricians or repair people, we’re therapists. We’re here to listen, to learn all about you, to understand you, to be a mirror for yourself and help YOU understand you. Believe it or not, that doesn’t happen in one session or in the heat of a momentary problem or crisis.
So When should I see a therapist?
Think of it like this: You’ve had (insert your age here) years of life on this Earth. You’ve had a number of experiences, trials and tribulations, high’s and low’s, laughs and tears. If you don’t understand why you tend to push people away when you are stressed, or why you can’t seem to hold down a job, I’m not going to be able to solve these riddles in one session. I’m good, but I’m not that good.
What is the Best Time for My Partner and Me to Attend Couples Therapy?
It is typical for couples to turn to therapy when they are facing major issues. However, therapy is most beneficial when used as a preventive measure rather than a defensive one.
It’s often that by the time a couple gets to me or any other couple’s therapist, they are on their last leg. They have tried it all, and can’t seem to come to a resolution, so what’s their last alternative before calling it quits? Therapy. Nay I say, nay! Do not do that to us (your therapists) because any therapist worth their salt will tell you that they’re not there to wave a magic wand and clear away months or years of resentment, anger, infidelity, or whatever gauntlet you’ve put one another through. They can certainly try, and try they will, but your relationship will have a much, much better chance if you seek therapy before it’s too late.
Therapy is a Form of Healthcare
Think of therapy as healthcare, because, well it is. Good mental health is absolutely VITAL for a long and healthy life. Don’t believe me? Well, I work with patients who have Dementia and guess what I know that you might not… shh, come here, bring it in and I’ll whisper it to you…
*Depression and Dementia are linked*
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Uh oh! That can’t be true! Can it!?
Unfortunately, it is.
Depression is a complex mental health condition that can have far-reaching consequences beyond its immediate effects. Studies conducted by Harvard Health have revealed a significant correlation between depression that starts in middle age and the risk of developing Dementia later in life. This research suggests that individuals who experience depression during this stage of life may face an alarming 80% higher likelihood of developing Dementia compared to those who do not! And that's middle age! Imagine the risks for someone who has had signs and symptoms of depression starting in childhood or adolescence. Yikes.
Equating Mental and Physical Health: Why Both Deserve Equal Attention
Now, let’s compare therapy to other aspects of our health. Most healthcare providers wouldn’t recommend you become obese before you try exercise or going to the gym, and you shouldn’t wait until you’re on the brink of a heart attack or losing a limb before you finally go get a check up with your doctor, so why apply the same logic to your mental health?
On the same token, waiting until the 11th hour to see a therapist for yourself or your relationship isn’t great either. There are better, healthier steps you can take as a form of ‘preventative care’ that not only keep a mental breakdown or menty b at bay, but can save your relationship BEFORE you’ve found yourself with the pillow in your hands hovering right over your good-for-nothing partner’s face while they sleep…
Also, you get to avoid Dementia! Isn’t that cool?
Essential Steps to Take
Well my friend, you’ll be happy to know that there is really only one step that needs to be taken in order to prevent potential heartbreak at losing your partner to miscommunication or misunderstandings and that is… GO TO THERAPY! Go now. Go on, git!
Don’t wait until there’s a problem, don’t wait until you hate the one you’ve chosen to spend your life with, don’t wait.
Go to therapy.
*Please note: This blog is provided for educational purposes only and should not be used as a replacement for medical advice from a physician.*
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